Toddlers are completely dependent on adults, for getting for example food, drink, security, love. Therefore they try to get as much attention as possible from an adult, so they get everything they (think) need (too).  Whining, by Jengelen in higher and higher tones, is the expression of a toddler who feels powerless and tries to enforce the attention of an adult. Toddlers often don't know how to express themselves in a different way. They easily get frustrated and start whining. That is why it is so important that toddlers learn to express themselves in a different way. For parents, it's good to know that the more results your toddler reaches with whining, the more likely your toddler is to use whining as an effective way of communicating. How do you stop it? Define. Make sure your toddler knows what you're all about: adults often assume that toddlers know what whining is and that they realize how awful it sounds, but that's not always the case. Alert your toddler that he whines and ask him to use his fixed voice. If your toddler is having trouble hearing the difference, copy your toddler without laughing at it or hurting it. You can also use dolls for this (role play) to explain the interplay of a nagging toddler and his annoyed parents. You can also film your own toddler, in the middle of a zeurbui/tantrum and during a "normal" conversation. If your toddler is in a good mood then you can play both and talk about what you hear. For example, you can explain to your toddler that if he whines it sounds unpleasant to adult and that people then stop listening. Practice together with the use of "normal" and unacceptable voices. Recognize your child's need to get attention. Toddlers often whine when they can't get their parents ' attention. That's why toddlers often start whining when you're talking to a friend, cooking, calling or watching TV. In short, every time you focus on something else and your toddler needs you (or think he needs you) he is going to try to enforce your attention with whining. When your toddler asks for something in a pleasant way, try to respond immediately. If you do not have the opportunity to react immediately, take a second to acknowledge his request and give him an estimate when you have time to help him. For example, "Darling, I know you want more juice." Wait a minute until I've put the groceries in the kitchen. " Just make sure that the wait is realistic: TIP! You can expect a child to have as much patience as his age in minutes. And don't forget to reward him if your toddler has managed to wait. Show your toddler a better way to address the problem. Sometimes whining toddlers because they cannot express their feelings. Help your toddler with identifying his/her emotion. For example, "I see you're angry." Is that because I'm not going to the park with you at the moment? " Try to get a conversation going. Toddlers work their communicative skills and can therefore become frustrated if they cannot find the word to express themselves. What can help is your toddler for these words to easily learn sign language, this often results in less tantrums and tedious behavior. Sign language can also help toddlers to make their point if they have trouble finding the right words. Even when the way of asking your toddler is unreasonable, it is very important to let your toddler know that he will not get what he wants because the way he asked the question is unacceptable. It's not advisable to say something like, "I can't understand you when you talk so. Use your normal voice once "do not react yourself upset, because then the behavior becomes worse. Some children respond better to visual acts. Try to keep your hands on your ears and to depict that the whining hurts you. Avoid triggers. Children often become grumpy and start whining when they are hungry or tired. Taking a hungry toddler with errands and expecting that he should not eat the biscuits is the same as putting a new toy on the table and telling your toddler that he should not play with it until he is a birthday. Make sure your toddler is not hungry or take food with you (snacks) that he can eat on the way to the store or while shopping. Take into account his naps when you're going to do some shopping or fun outings. This will make your life easier. Reign consistently. Do not give a limit to your toddler if you do not hold this limit when your toddler is going to whine. Say and do the same, every time again, do not admit. Just as important, it is consistently ' not responding ' to a nagging tone: If your toddler uses his "normal" voice, respond immediately so that your toddler learns that this is what does work. Stay connected. As a parent you want your toddler to know that he can get attention without having to whine. So make sure you regularly read a story together, puzzle or just make fun. Touch your toddler frequently affectionately, give him lots of hugs, and reward him as he behaves well. Try to distract. Toddlers generally have low communicative skills. So about everything, for example not enough toys on the mat, too many children in a room, or too much or too little juice in a cup can lead to whining. Sometimes the only way out is to distract your toddler before the whining starts. Do not react when your peuter's whining turns into a tantrum. As a parent, always keep the head cool, no matter what happens. Don't make it worse or don't admit it, even if the result would be that annoying whining doesn't stop. If you do admit you will pay the price in the long run: even more and more intensive whining. Toddlers who whine get their way, this is the last you want to learn as a parent…